• 6 Destructive Marriage Styles and How to Address Them

    The 6 most destructive styles of marriage, how they develop and how to deal with them. Certain styles of marriage cause the most conflict and unhappiness for couples. Once a marriage gets to the point where both people feel unhappy, it becomes crucial to figure out what is going wrong between the partners. This level…

  • Cognitive Therapy: How Thoughts Shape Feelings and Actions

    How we think affects how we feel, and how we feel affects how we behave. Understanding the concepts of cognitive therapy can help alleviate depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. Our brains are constantly processing. We are continuosly analyzing, judging, predicting and computing information taken in by our senses. When information is processed factually and neutrally,…

  • How Codependency Harms Relationships and How to Fix It

    How codependency patterns can ruin relationships. What is codependency, why it develops, and how to change it? A general definition for codependency is, ” a pattern of over- focusing on another person to the neglect and detriment of the self.” To fully understand this concept, you have to understand what is meant by ” over-…

  • Sharing Too Much Too Soon Can Sabotage Dating Success

    Giving too much information too soon can sabotage dating outcomes. It can lead to a false sense of intimacy, cause sex to happen too fast, and sabotage a relationship before it has a chance to develop Knowing what to talk about in the early stages of dating can be challenging. The anxiety one might feel…

  • Most Common Dating Mistake: “Too Much, Too Soon”

    Many single people do not see fast paced dating as problematic.. They presume if something feels good or right, speeding it up will get you to your relationship goal faster. However, what often happens is the opposite. Several problems often result with a “ too much, too soon” pattern of dating. A false sense of…

  • Autism: Cognitive Deficits and Their Impact on Treatment

    Autism as a cognitive deficit feature affects treatment results. autistic people can learn, grow, and develop relationships. Autism is a neurological disorder usually diagnosed in childhood when developmental milestones begin to show significant delays. Autism affects each individual to varying degrees in all areas related to speech and language development, social engagement, cognitive and behavioral…

  • How Goal-Setting Boosts Self-Esteem, Success, and Discipline

    The influence of setting goals on self- esteem, success, and self- discipline. Setting goals is part of life. Looking forward towards what we want to achieve is a motivating force. When one sets a goal there is usually a strong. intention to meet that goal. There is also excitement at the anticipation of meeting the…

  • Laziness Stems from Insecurity and Lack of Planning

    Laziness can become a habit. Is it rooted in insecurities and lack of an organized plan One of the most common excuses people give for procrastinating and not completing tasks is that they are “ lazy”. We can all relate to the feeling of not wanting to exert ourselves, especially for a difficult or “non-stop…

  • What Attracts us and Why?

    Why do we attach and connect to certain people and not to others? Attachment is about seeking to get our needs met. If we are seeking to get unhealthy needs met that reflect hurts and wounds that come from our past, than attachments to unhealthy people and situations will occur.  For example, if you had…

  • When Friendships Shift

    Rebecca Sperber, MS, MFT May 2019 Friendships are more complicated than most people realize.  They are often simplified into categories of a best friend, close friend, or peripheral friend. However, all levels of friendship deal with expectations that when not met create conflict. Close friendships endure over time through varied experiences. Through the passage of…