Music is a form of communication between couples that can express and clarify feelings, wants, and needs. It is difficult for some people to find the words or say the words that create vulnerability and intimacy. The fear of rejection or feeling embarrassed can be a deterrent to opening up to a partner. The right song, at the right time, with the right message can help.
Couples often choose a love song to play at their wedding that tells how they feel about each other and describes the story of their journey to find each other. Although a song doesn’t replace the inevitability of direct communication, it can open the door to a conversation that will either acknowledge you have fallen in love, express conflicts that need attention, or clarify wants and needs. Music can expand the degree of romance in a relationship during the falling in love stage as well as get couples back on track during times of disconnect and doubt.
Through the generations, songwriters have used the subject of love and relationships to write songs that tell the story of how wonderful being in love feels as well as how difficult an experience it can be. Musicians often reveal that their inspiration for songs about love comes from their personal experiences. They speak descriptively about the personal growth and happiness that comes from being deeply, emotionally open to loving someone. Listening to music can help one better understand the emotions and issues relevant to their relationship experience. The songwriters lyrics can help enhance one’s ability to express intimate thoughts, feelings, needs, and expectations
Each generation has it’s own artists and songs that speak to the bliss and pain of love. For the greatest generation of the 40’s and 50’s, it was the crooners like Frank Sinatra and Dean Martin. For the baby boomers there was Lionel Ritchie and Diana Ross singing “Endless Love” or Barry Manilow professing his love for “Mandy”. For the millennials it’s music by young artist’s like Taylor Swift and Ed Sheeran who write and sing about falling in and out of love.
Music intensifies our emotions. Lyrics about love, romance, and heartbreak are reminders that communication is an essential part of a healthy relationship. Songs can help us better understand how we feel about our partner and show us the many ways those feelings can be expressed. If shared with your partner, many love songs can be the impetus for moving a relationship to a deeper level of intimacy. Love songs about love and relationships are often expressed in an over-dramatic style, like Bryan Adams proclaiming ” I will die for you” in his beautiful ballad, “Everything I Do, I Do It For You”. These kind of lyrics illustrate how intense love and vulnerability can make one feel they would do absolutely anything for the one they are in live with. Clearly not to be taken literally and when expressed in music, these exaggerated phrases make clear how intense and overwhelming love can feel.
The emotion conveyed in a love song can open the door to talk in ways that fear and confusion sometimes stop lovers from doing. For the person who is afraid to say I love you, that conversation can be started by sharing music that says it for you, like the old Beatle song, PS, I love You.” Sharing a beautiful love song enhances the romance and vulnerability shared by lovers that too often goes under-expressed.
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